Humanizing Desire

We’re so familiar with the concept that there are submissive men who desire dominant women. There’s enough pornography to show this, enough men on sites like alt.com and Fetlife who are submissive and enough comments from submissive identifying men on this blog (take a look, you’ll find it’s nearly *all* of them.) to know that male submissive desire is … Continue reading »

What are you looking for?

I thought I’d dedicate this post to the best/worst of the search terms that seem to pop up. Just for fun and/or the bursting of bizarre myths people seem to have. Dominant Women/ Dominant woman/ Femdom/ Femdomme Perhaps unsurprisingly this was top of the list out of all search terms. People (and presumably, that’s mainly … Continue reading »

Femme Domme: Femininity and Finding one’s Dominance

  A few years back I read Naomi Wolf’s book The Beauty Myth. There was a lot I didn’t agree with, many facts I feel are overstretched for the purpose of Wolf’s argument. However, scrolling through Tumblr recently, I came upon the following quotation:   “We all know about the sexual desire of adolescent boys. … Continue reading »

Hugs Are Great, Aren’t They?

Is it possible to suffer from top drop when you’ve not even been in a scene? Because right now, that’s totally how I feel. And then I realised that someone else felt like this and I mentally punched the air with excitement. Up until this point, I’d been totally weirded out by what I perceived to be … Continue reading »

Getting What I Want

I’ve been doing a lot of thinking recently about what it is that I actually want. I know that it should seem pretty obvious what my sexual preferences are now, obviously, given that this is a BDSM blog. But I mean on a bigger, wider scale. Something I’m a little worried about is ending up … Continue reading »

BDSM Orientation and ways of loving

Back when I first started reading kinky blogs, I came across Clarisse Thorn’s post on BDSM as orientation. I’ve been kicking this issue about in my brain for a year or so and I’ve come to the conclusion that we may be missing a little of this puzzle. That, once again, human sexuality is too … Continue reading »

Why I’m sex positive

The following post is small but I think it’s important. I cannot stress this enough. Growing up, I was always told how boys only wanted their wicked way with girls. I was told how they would lie and cheat and tell me they loved me to get into my pants. I was told that nice … Continue reading »